Blooming Voices Podcast
Do you listen to all the experts on podcasts and think, “no wonder they’re experts; they’re awesome, they’re smart, they’re....” Stop right there! You’re awesome!You have a story to tell, and there really is no one like you. Embrace your story. Celebrate yourself. Of course we all have room for growth, and no one is ever done growing. Just because you don’t know the answer to something today doesn’t make you a loser or does it? Naaa, of course it doesn’t! It makes you a human on life’s journey, just learning new things day to day! The more you know, the more you know what you don’t know. You're a little bud in the process of blooming... ready to share your truth and grow.Join two halves of two twin pairs as we share inspiring stories and a variety of perspectives about identity. We talk about our own unique backgrounds and how it unravels in the pursuit of finding identity, individuality, and an authentic voice. Religion, confrontations, twin questions, equality, being voice over artists, entrepreneurship, travel, movies... nothing is off limits! A true variety of topics and questions is how we grow best.
Blooming Voices Podcast
Ep 14 - Self-Sabotage Much?
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Jordan Drayer and Dalia Ramahi
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Season 2
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Episode 14
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Self-sabotage, procrastination, oh my! It happens to (probably) all of us. What can we do to fight it?
Takeaways
- Self-sabotage can show up in different ways like procrastination, being self-critical, not taking care of yourself, perfectionism, not being able to adapt to changes, and so much more.
- Doing other “productive” things when you need to do one important thing is not productive.
- Why do you self-sabotage/procrastinate? There could be many reasons.
- Find what works for you to avoid self-sabotage - your future self relying on you, future children, deadlines, accountability groups, whatever.
- When other people are relying on you, it’s often easier. Doing things for yourself is harder. We need to make ourselves worth it.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be beneficial to break out of sabotaging patterns.
- Get curious about yourself. Ask yourself questions about your state of being.
- We are programmed from a young age to think in the negative (what we can’t do, shouldn’t do, etc.)
- We can reprogram our negative thoughts but it takes consistency and a commitment to want to change those thought patterns. If Dalia can do it with chocolate cake, you can do it with anything.
- You can’t control other people; don’t try to anticipate their reactions all the time.
- Practice the art of self-care and self-love.
- Try to hype yourself up every day. Find something to appreciate about even boring work days.
- Don’t be blunt-honest to be mean; know the person you’re talking to (if they can take it) or only give your real honest opinion if asked for it.
- Self-awareness is the first step to beating self-sabotage. In the meantime, be gentle with yourself.
- Changing your habits can take weeks to years! Stay with it :D
Resources
- https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/
- https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-sabotage
- https://www.choosingtherapy.com/self-sabotaging/
- http://thefordinstitute.com/selfsabotagequiz
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201903/what-is-self-awareness-and-how-do-you-get-it
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